Okay...so after talking with my partner today I have a huge headache (like my mother, I get headaches AFTER the stress is gone and I start to relax) and a huge sense of relief. The negativeness I was feeling from her was a product of my own frustrations and stresses. Talking things over with her made us both feel better about our relationship. Of course, that doesn't really solve our problem, but only time will do that, anyway.